If you suspect your wife no longer loves you, you are probably going through lots of pain. You feel sad and down, and you miss the way she used to make you feel. You are wondering whether she is still in love with you.

There are many materials you can buy online and in bookstores - even seminars - available to help you answer the question, “does my wife still love me”? But exercising some common sense can really make a difference after a loss of love between you. And, displaying the appropriate behavior can go long way toward healing your relationship.

If you cannot stop thinking about your lost relationship and wondering if she still loves you, I have some tips on how to rekindle her love for you. You will give yourself the best chance of getting back together with that special someone.

Avoid being dishonest with her!

This is a very important tip, but one that is often ignored at the peril of the distraught husband. Why? Many people fall back on playing games when they are hurt by their wives’ recent coldness because it gives them a sense of power. If you can make your wife think that you no longer have feelings for her - or if you can make her think you care more than you really do - you are just playing with her mind. That can make you feel powerful in the short term, which can feel good. But this good feeling is short-lived, and it will not last for very long.

At some point, you will come to the realization that trying to fool your wife does not really work. And, anything good that happens because of it will always be tarnished by the fact that it is based on lies.

Some people play games to make their wives jealous by pretending to show interest in someone else. This is merely a way to try to make their falling-out-of-love wives feel jealous. While this can work, in many instances it actually causes a breakup, once and for all. For example, your wife could be so jealous at the thought of you being with someone else that she wants you back. Or, on the contrary, she could decide that since you emotionally became disengaged so quickly, you do not really care about her anyway. The bottom line is, you have no way of knowing how this type of dishonest action will play out in terms of longer-term effects.

Be nice!

This is true for any type of relationship, but sometimes the anger that comes from one’s wife suddenly going emotionally cold can make can us act in a way that is beneath us. Even if you are feeling hurt, the fact that you want to know, “does my wife still love me?” indicates that you want to make things work.

Ask yourself how you have been acting toward your wife lately. If you were your wife, would you look forward to spending time you? Even if you feel like picking fights with her, simply stop yourself from doing so. Instead, work extra hard at controlling your ill will. In other words, be a person who deserves to be cared for!

Remember: be on your best behavior when you are around your wife, and help her to remember what it was that made her fall in love with you in the first place. She will remember your good points and will miss them. You will then have a better chance of rekindling the love you share.

What I have shared with you here are just the beginning steps in winning back the love of your wife. They are the first steps I followed when I lost the love of my life - my wife. And frankly, these are not my own ideas. Rather, I learned these ideas from top relationship experts who have made a science out of people getting their spouses to fall back in love with them.